This is common
This is not your fault
This is making life in a fall world
This is God's design for our bodies
This is painful--and you should not deny yourself the pain
It is good to grieve:
I hope you will not feel ashamed of your sadness
Or ashamed of your hopefulness which made this news such a surprise
The brevity of this life does not mean its loss is without consequence
And your hopefulness to try again does not dishonor the loss
Somehow it feels good to have the tender parts of your heart be tested
It was true before and it is true now: I have gifts all around me
